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   Someone has said," Forgiveness is not a case of " holy amnesia "  that wipes out the past. Instead, it is the experience of healing that drains the poison from the wound."

    Last year, I’ve make a new friend. He was kind & friendly. We always chat in phone & sms almost everyday. But, one day he told me to stop sms him & lesser chatting in phone. I was curious, what’ve happened to him. I tried to find out the answer from him but always failed. 10 sms sent, no 1 reply; every calls failed to answer. I was very worry what has happened to him. Did I done anything wrong? What happened? Can someone told me?

    One day, he answered my call & told me that his girl friend will be angry with him if he continue to be friend with me. He suggest to end-up this friendship. I was shock! What theory it is? Is there a limitation to have a friend or to make friend with? Is there a law that boy & girl, who are in relationship & anyone in married cannot make friends with others? I was very angry with him & hung up the phone. I’ve cried for a few days because of this. I’ve asked myself several times, what’s a friend for? Why we should true & sincere in friendship, but in result we being threatened badly? Why…Why…Why…?????

    One night, I’ve read the words of Jesus in the bible:

"If you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."

                                                      (Matthew 6 : 15)

    God asks us to do for others what He has done for us through Jesus Christ. He’ll give us strength to forgive.
    Since we all need forgiveness, we should always be forgiving. I was struggled with my feelings but when I  recalled the words of Jesus in Matthew 6:15, I knew I had to forgive.

    I am very sorry & I know I’m wrong. I should not thinking childish & asking lot of silly questions.
    I really hope he will forgive me too. The anger & the reaction that I’ve done to him may make him feel disappointed & angry too. I wish this friendship will be joint again.

    Everyone love to make friends around. All of us need friends, including you & me. But friend has been classified as good friend, best friend, close friend…..
Why? How do we value & differentiate the level of a friend? What kind of friends are considered as good, best, close…?
Is it by the background or the benefit that we gain from?

    When I was in secondary school, I have two best friends. We like to joke, talk & share together.We will share to one another of what is happy, sad & funny stories, of course no secret between us.
Yes I am very proud to have them as my best friend.

    One day, a friend came to me & tell me that my best friends have told something bad behind me. I was surprise! Of course I don’t believe it & laugh, surely you have wrongly heard. But another two friends told me the same story as the first. My heart broken just like a vase fell on the floor. I was very sad. Start for that day onwards, I’ve kept all my secrets away from them. I don’t dare to tell anyone again.
Can you imagine your friend hurt you with a knife? Do you think that this is how the best friend should be? What kind of friendship we are?

    Yes, I was very angry with them & have a thought to end-up this friendship. But God has spoken to me…..

" In your anger do not sin" : Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, & do not give the devil a foothold.
                                                                         (Ephesians 4 : 26-27)

Till now we are still in friendship.